1. Will I ever be debt free?
2. How long will I keep my house picked up/clean since it is okay after company left?
3. Will the 30 minutes I walked today be repeated this week?
4. Will the 1/4 c. 5 grain cereal covered with fresh-frozen blueberries and soy milk counteract the 4 cinnamon rolls I ate?
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Reflections on Company and Sharing.
I haven't had overnight company for a long time; and this last week, my friend B was able to come stay with me through Thanksgiving. We enjoyed our time together. It's easy to be with her because she does her own thing. We enjoy just being in the same room together, visiting. Since I don't have TV right now, she brought her computer, and we would each be using our computers, or one reading, doing crosswords, computer games, etc., while the other did what she wanted. It's companionship; nothing heavy, and yet deep and comforting.
I'd forgotten what it was like to have another person in the house; to be aware of another's wants and needs. I've forgotten what it was like to think of the other person FIRST and be considerate. When I got a snack, I'd forget to ask B if she'd like me to get her a snack, for example. I've come to live a selfish life and I really am lonely for companionship. What a sad way of living.
She was also very valuable in giving me a lesson on patience and a more objective look at dad. She thinks we argue so much because we are too much alike! The worst thing that could ever be for me. I think my dad is disgusting and creepy. B thinks he is just a tottering, grumpy old man. She did get tired of his 'stories.'
We had fun traveling around looking at the sights. I took her along Rim Rock Drive in the Colorado National Monument and it was sunny with storms approaching which made the sky full of unique patterns of sun and clouds. I took her with me to one of my schools for an afternoon; took her to my office. While I was busy at work, she read and took walks in the neighborhoods, enjoying the sunshine and cool (bordering Cold) weather.
Thursday we cooked Thanksgiving dinner and she was in charge of the turkey. We laughed as she started baking it too late to be done for our 2 p.m. dinner, as she was playing on her computer which had the PDT rather than MDT on it. So we had dinner in courses (marvelously her term!), with all the side dishes first, turkey with more mashed potatoes and gravy next, and then dessert! Jokes were made about the 'vegetarian' dinner...as I tried to make everything vegan or or least vegetarian!And then we ended up eating the 'vegetarian' part of the meal first!
She and dad enjoyed the turkey; she pulled the leftovers apart and is taking some home and I'm giving the rest to dad. She froze it, so it will be fine. Then, as is her custom, she cooked the carcass, pulled bits of meat off it, added those to the broth from the cook carcass and chopped in some vegetables and pasta to make a wonderfully smelling turkey noodle soup. The broth and all made two quarts. I'll give it to my neighbor and to dad. We each added a bit of our own histories to the dinner. Sharing.
Friday we skipped the 'black Friday shopping' and drove across Grand Mesa where the sun sparkled on the foot or so of snow beside the road. There were only a few snowy spots on the road. We stopped to take pictures and look at the magnificent views. We came down the other side of the mountain to Cedaredge where we ate lunch at the Apple Shed, looked at the local art for sale. I took her briefly through Delta, up to my 'growing up' neighborhood and house, told her about my dad and his brothers having the lumber company and showed her where I went to grade school. Then we drove up to Montrose and to the Ute Museum. It was open, so we got to look at the Native American paraphernalia. We briefly stopped at Target to pick up more coffee (B is quite the coffee addict and drank up all I had on hand) and then drove home through the desert at dusk, arriving home in time to eat dinner made of yummy Thanksgiving leftovers. All total, we drove 190 miles Friday.
I had a wonderful time enjoying Colorado beauty with my friend. She is truly forgiving and truthful and laughs a lot. I needed that. I miss having my friends close by. I miss having my kids and grandkids close by. I think I've gotten buried in dad's negative attitude though I try so hard to shake if off. It colors everything I do and having B here helped dispel a lot of it like fresh cool air in my face.
I'm really tired, another side effect of having others in my house, but it was so worth it. Thank you, B, for putting up with my selfishness and forgetfulness. You are a true friend.
I'd forgotten what it was like to have another person in the house; to be aware of another's wants and needs. I've forgotten what it was like to think of the other person FIRST and be considerate. When I got a snack, I'd forget to ask B if she'd like me to get her a snack, for example. I've come to live a selfish life and I really am lonely for companionship. What a sad way of living.
She was also very valuable in giving me a lesson on patience and a more objective look at dad. She thinks we argue so much because we are too much alike! The worst thing that could ever be for me. I think my dad is disgusting and creepy. B thinks he is just a tottering, grumpy old man. She did get tired of his 'stories.'
We had fun traveling around looking at the sights. I took her along Rim Rock Drive in the Colorado National Monument and it was sunny with storms approaching which made the sky full of unique patterns of sun and clouds. I took her with me to one of my schools for an afternoon; took her to my office. While I was busy at work, she read and took walks in the neighborhoods, enjoying the sunshine and cool (bordering Cold) weather.
Thursday we cooked Thanksgiving dinner and she was in charge of the turkey. We laughed as she started baking it too late to be done for our 2 p.m. dinner, as she was playing on her computer which had the PDT rather than MDT on it. So we had dinner in courses (marvelously her term!), with all the side dishes first, turkey with more mashed potatoes and gravy next, and then dessert! Jokes were made about the 'vegetarian' dinner...as I tried to make everything vegan or or least vegetarian!And then we ended up eating the 'vegetarian' part of the meal first!
She and dad enjoyed the turkey; she pulled the leftovers apart and is taking some home and I'm giving the rest to dad. She froze it, so it will be fine. Then, as is her custom, she cooked the carcass, pulled bits of meat off it, added those to the broth from the cook carcass and chopped in some vegetables and pasta to make a wonderfully smelling turkey noodle soup. The broth and all made two quarts. I'll give it to my neighbor and to dad. We each added a bit of our own histories to the dinner. Sharing.
Friday we skipped the 'black Friday shopping' and drove across Grand Mesa where the sun sparkled on the foot or so of snow beside the road. There were only a few snowy spots on the road. We stopped to take pictures and look at the magnificent views. We came down the other side of the mountain to Cedaredge where we ate lunch at the Apple Shed, looked at the local art for sale. I took her briefly through Delta, up to my 'growing up' neighborhood and house, told her about my dad and his brothers having the lumber company and showed her where I went to grade school. Then we drove up to Montrose and to the Ute Museum. It was open, so we got to look at the Native American paraphernalia. We briefly stopped at Target to pick up more coffee (B is quite the coffee addict and drank up all I had on hand) and then drove home through the desert at dusk, arriving home in time to eat dinner made of yummy Thanksgiving leftovers. All total, we drove 190 miles Friday.
I had a wonderful time enjoying Colorado beauty with my friend. She is truly forgiving and truthful and laughs a lot. I needed that. I miss having my friends close by. I miss having my kids and grandkids close by. I think I've gotten buried in dad's negative attitude though I try so hard to shake if off. It colors everything I do and having B here helped dispel a lot of it like fresh cool air in my face.
I'm really tired, another side effect of having others in my house, but it was so worth it. Thank you, B, for putting up with my selfishness and forgetfulness. You are a true friend.
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